I’m a girl, and I want to find someone who’s willing to treat me like a queen. I don’t want a servant for life. I want someone who understands me, loves me and cares for me. I’m choosing a husband, a life partner. I’m not finding an ATM machine. I definitely need someone who is emotionally available to me. That way, I shall feel really secure and loved and that’s what marriage should bring to me. Plus, if a man doesn’t treat you well now, he’s not likely to treat you well later in life. Every time I see the movie “golden pond”, I’m always moved by how many years later after the old couple got married they still loved each other deeply. That’s the kind of relationship I want to be in, and a man that treats me well deserves my treating him well.
Earning potential
I think the most important characteristic for a marriage partner is earning potential. We’re talking about living together in marriage, and there’s a certain standard of life that’s important to a successful marriage. You want to be happy spiritually and materially. Just by saying I love you will not change the fact that I’m hungry. So I think having great earning potential is important, at least for a man. It doesn’t mean that the man should be well-established already when I and he get married. But at least, he needs to let me see the light ahead that one day through his hard work I will live a life of comparatively higher standard. And conventionally , a man is still regarded as the main bread-winner of the household, so if he can’t bring home a lot of money, then where will our happiness and life security be?
Responsibility/honesty
I think it’s important for a man to be responsible and honest to be my Mr. Right. Because, I want to have a warm heart in my marriage, and I don’t want to feel worried about where my husband is and what he’s doing. I believe to be a man, at least he should be able to give his wife a sense of security . How does he do this? By behaving responsibly and honestly. If my husband ever show the tendency of cheating on me, or if my husband flirt with other women, I will simply be disappointed and maybe if I love him enough, heartbroken. That’s certainly not what I want. I understand it’s not easy to find a 100% honest man, but still I need to live in my dream, hoping that one day the last one will appear in my life.
